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If you've ever seen the show Bridgerton, then you know that in previous centuries, being an unmarried woman made one essentially a social pariah if you were of a certain age. There was an age cap on being marriage material and it was approximately 26. So after age 26, an unmarried woman was labeled a spinster. Spinster?! (Gasp) It would be great if these antiquated notions about the correct age to marry were left in the past... but they have persisted in ridiculous ways and the labels for unmarried women have morphed. Most recently, we became aware that a woman older than 30 who is single (it doesn't matter if she's single due to the death of a spouse, divorce, or any other special case), she is called a thornback. Now, what is a thornback you may ask? A thornback is a sea skate that has grown sharp and hard thorns on its back. So, the psychologist in me imagines that a see creature with armor is supposed to conjure nightmares and one should not dare be called a thornback... but the feminist in me revels and delights in the term. A thornback is strong, awesome, and meant to last the long haul from my perspective. So, this website is dedicated to women who are at a point in life where they get to make a choice about labels. I'm in my late 30's and separated from my 2nd husband (the first one divorced me then annulled me so he could marry a virgin) and I'm a thornback. I lead the thornback lifestyle... and I love it. Now what exactly is the thornback lifestyle? Well, that's the great part! We get to collaborate and brainstorm what it means to be a thornback. What do we do in our spare time? What do we eat? Where do we go on vacation? This website will be our playground for defining our choices in a positive light. Partnering up just for the sake of it doesn't work for our kind. We are unique, we are wise, and we are willing to talk about our choices. So, please, join in on this conversation and let us know about the choices you've made (for better or for worse, pun intended) to get to this point in your life.